Coaching With Sandy

What One Life Coaching Session Can Do

2012-05-14T21:54:00.000-04:00

People usually sign on with a coach for several months to achieve their goals and get the results they want. The value of ongoing support and focus is unquestionable, but a single session can also be a powerful experience to get clarity, insights and direction for the next step in your life. When you are focused on your brilliance in a coaching session, your brilliance begins to emerge as it did with C.D.

Life Coaching Story

C.D. is a professional who was having some disturbing issues in her workplace. We met for a complimentary life coaching session and she shared her story of the office drama which was driving her crazy. She was clearly upset over the behavior of a particularly manipulative coworker and didn't know what to do about it.

Once I got enough of the details to piece together the picture, I refocused the attention from the coworker back to C.D. Anytime a client has an issue in a relationship, whether it be with a coworker, spouse or friend, the root of the issue usually comes back to the client. The only control the client has is over themselves and their responses, so this is where we focus our attention. C.D. recognized this and was willing to focus on herself to come to a place of peace and positive action with the coworker.

Not only did she come to a place of peace but she also discovered the place of brilliance within herself. It was amazing and inspiring to be a part of her self revelation as it unfolded. She initially presented with the dilema of whether or not she should report her coworker for going against company policies. As we explored the true components of the dilema she got the insight that she was operating under two sets of conflicting beliefs. The first was her work ethic, which was very strong. She perceived her coworker as taking advantage of the system and not pulling his weight. The second was a belief (rule) she picked up from her family of origin which required her to avoid confrontation at all cost. The realization that she had been holding onto this old unspoken rule prompted her to consider getting deeper long term help from a counselor to heal her past. We explored her resources in that respect and she discovered that she could turn to someone she knew in the profession of psychotherapy for guidance and assistance. With the roots from C.D.'s past identified, we could move on to her present experience to get clarity on the best course of action with her coworker. At one point I began to take C.D. into a guided internal exercise, or guided visualization, to explore what she would do if she were the person who no longer avoided conflict. No sooner did she close her eyes than she had the insight that she could approach her coworker in a whole different way, with a more open attitude to make him aware of how his behavior is affecting others and how it could potentially affect his future in the company. In that moment she saw an alternative to the only two approaches she previously thought she had, to avoid confrontation or confront. She felt powerful, because she had found an option which was authentic to her. This insight gave her the courage to speak up not only to her coworker, but also to her boss in ways that would be truly beneficial to everyone. C.D. emerged from the life coaching session with a strong sense of confidence about her situation, knowing that she had tapped into her brilliance and discovered her own solutions.

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Testimonial

2012-05-14T21:53:00.001-04:00

In C.D.'s Words:
Sandy did a fantastic job! She helped me to see what was really holding me back from solving my issue. The information I gained from one call with Sandy will positively influence the rest of my life.

2012-05-03T08:01:00.000-04:00

It's almost the middle of 2012! Have you brought your dream into reality? Are you playing your biggest and best game this year? You can become a stronger player in the game you have created and live a bigger version of yourself. What desires do you still hold which are begging to be lived?

Sometimes it's hard to know where to start or maybe even what you truly want. You know you want more. You know you're capable of more. Let's discover what "more" means to you and how you can live it.

See that form over there on the right? Just put your email address in to continue the journey to your deepest desires and dreams. Get notification of the latest podcast and upcoming events, and tidbits of inspiration to become a stronger player in your game. (I promise never to sell or share your email with anyone else, and also to keep my communication regular but not overwhelming)

Are you ready for more right now? Get a complimentary coaching session to discover the next steps to your success.

Becoming the Queen or King of Your Universe

2012-05-03T08:00:00.000-04:00

When you master your personal universe, your outer world shifts to accommodate and reflect that mastery. Here's how you can begin to reclaim your power to create the life you want

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2012-01-25T07:52:00.002-05:00

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1. Sign up for a complimentary coaching session.
2. Before the coaching session consider what you would like to get from coaching.
3. If you would like to continue coaching after the complimentary session, purchase a single session or monthly package.
4. After your purchase contact me to set up your appointment(s)

Podcasts

2010-01-05T21:12:00.002-05:00

Latest Podcast:
Burning the Candle at One End

This meditation is an exercise which will assist you in eliminating the things in your life which get in the way of your deepest desires. For this exercise you will need a couple of pieces of paper and a pencil or pen.

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Latest Article

2010-01-05T11:06:00.003-05:00

From Creative Tornado to Powerhouse of Productivity

Creative, holistically minded people work in circular patterns, often experiencing life in more of a spiral than a linear fashion. Contrary to popular belief, there is nothing wrong with this pattern. In fact it is essential for creative expansion and it must be honored as part of the creative process. Without the help of linear goals, however, the circular approach to life and work can spiral out of control, so much so that the highly creative person runs around in circles feeling overwhelmed and achieving very little. I call this the "creative tornado". The tornado gains momentum as it spins and if it doesn't have a direct intention and linear direction as a guide, it will move randomly and in a disorganized fashion which impedes the process of true achievement. .. Read More at Selfgrowth.com...

What Are You Tolerating?

2010-01-04T14:05:00.001-05:00

What are you tolerating in your life that is keeping you from success? Tolerations are like the shoes that are left in the middle of the floor which you keep walking around instead of putting away. It may seem easier to take the few extra steps than to remove the obstacle, but in time those extra steps add up to miles and hours of wasted time and energy which could be spent moving toward success. So what are you walking around, avoiding, putting up with? What is it costing you in time, energy and focus?

Tolerations can be little things like the disorganized wallet that you have to rifle around to find the debit card you need for your next purchase. Or it can be something big like an unresolved issue in a relationship or taxes left unfiled. Whether big or small, each toleration is an energy drain which distracts you either subtley or directly from productive action toward your true desires.

If you're feeling drained, distracted or unfocused it's time to do an inventory of the tolerations in your life. You may already be aware of big ones looming in the background or the little ones right in front of your face. Start by making a list of the tolerations which come to mind immediately. Separate the list into two categories, 1) Tolerations which can be taken care of in a short amount of time, 2) Tolerations which require time, ongoing support, or something from someone else. Next write down a few starter steps you can take toward eliminating the tolerations in category 2. If there is a step you can take immediately put it in category number 1. After that look at your category 1 list. This is your immediate action list. Pick 3-5 items from that list that you can complete by the end of the day, then choose one that you will act on right now and do it. This action will open up your momentum for completing the rest.

As you continue to work on eliminating tolerations in your life you will find that new ones will come to your awareness. If you come across some resistance or overwhelm when moving toward success in this way it may be time to seek out extra support. An accountability buddy or a coach who can help you unearth and eliminate the underlying cause of resistance will help immensely.

2010-01-03T17:22:00.001-05:00

Testimonial

Sandy has a gracious presence and a great sense of humor, those two qualities make for a really fun, sweet session. Her questions challenge in wise ways and allow for insights to come easily. Sandy helped me figure out how to get my lazy bones out of bed earlier and get out and do what I love everyday. Thanks, Sandy.

Traci McMinn, White Rabbit Coaching

2010-01-02T16:18:00.006-05:00

Testimonial

I hadn't realized how clear the link was between my issues in both finances and in relatinship. Because of my session with Sandy Freschi I am better able to identify the push/pull of conflicting energy that I am presenting to the world. I now understand why I am manifesting in the same start/stop fashion. Thank you Sandy!

Deborah Lindsey
President International Metaphysical University

Coaching Stories - Readying for a Relationship

2010-01-01T21:16:00.000-05:00

C.C. is a single woman in her mid thirties who is just beginning a career in nursing. She initially wanted to be coached on how to attract a relationship. Her biggest challenge was that she could feel a relationship coming, but her enthusiasm to meet and date new men was dampered by disappointment. She continually found herself disappointed by the lack of connection between her and the potential partners she was meeting. This pattern had been ongoing for approximately a 6-8 months, since she had opened herself up to attracting a mate. She couldn't understand why she kept attracting men who were not right for her in one way or another.

During the first coaching session C.C. and I examined what she was attracting that she didn't want, and what she truly wanted in a mate. As we talked C.C. discovered that she enjoyed the company of male friends who weren't necessarily the types of men that she found compatible as a life partner. But her openess to attract a partner sent the signal to these men whom she wanted to be only friends, that she may be available for a relationship with them. After some examination of her most recent date, she realized that there was a point leading up to the date where she could have communicated a clear boundary which would have prevented her from going down the path of a disappointing date. Once she became aware of what she was communicating and how she could have done it differently, she felt much more confident in her ability to stop the cycle of dating men who were not her best match.

Then our attention turned to attracting her best match. C.C. expressed that she could feel that a relationship with an ideal mate was right around the corner. When I asked her what he was like she gave a superficial description of characteristics and stated that she would know him by the way she felt when she was with him. I suggested to her that she start writing to this man in her journal to pull out more of these feelings so she would recognize them even more clearly as time went on. In the time between sessions she did this diligently and discovered that as she wrote she felt so filled up with love that attracting the relationship was no longer a big issue in her life.

In our second session C.C. had moved past the relationship issue feeling that it was inevitable, and wanted to turn her attention to her living situation. She knew that she wanted to move, but wasn't sure if it was the best decision. During this session she discovered that the reason she hasn't attracted a mate is because she feels that she must create more stability in her life (such as starting a new career), and upgrade her living environment. This moment of realization gave her the confidence and clarity she needed to sever her lease and move forward into a living situation where she felt more fully herself and ready to start a relationship.

This story was printed with the permission of the client.